How to Inform Children About an Impending Divorce

  1. First, make sure that you are in control of your own emotions, and can convey information in a reasonable manner.
  2. Second, don’t display anger, fear, disappointment, blame or hurt.
  3. Third, parents should agree on when and where this conversation will take place.
  4. Fourth, if possible, parents should agree on their explanation as to why they are getting divorced. If parents are unable to agree, they should seek advice from a qualified professional and agree to follow this advice.
  5. Fifth, all of your children should be informed of the decision at the same time.
  6. Sixth, do not give detailed information about the reasons for the divorce (eg. money problems, affairs, etc.)
  7. Seventh, describe how the divorce will affect the children. Dedicate a place in each the parent’s homes that belongs to the children.
  8. Eighth, solicit your children’s input.
  9. Ninth, make sure that your children know that they are not responsible for the divorce.
  10. Tenth, assure your children of your love for them, and give them permission to love both of their parents.
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